We not only have to do workplace planning, but also need life planning, in a short life, where do you want to live, with whom, how to live, even if you are not in this world, how do you want others to evaluate you and miss you? Thinking of these, will you still have the work in front of you, the daily 996, and the interpersonal relationship troubles in the workplace that you can't handle well, and the pattern of life has opened up~

This article comes from the flash mob sharing of the wild operation × Dongdong to share the essence of the content compiled by "5 years of not going to work, I summarized the complete freelancing strategy", the partners who came to participate in the sharing have begun to prepare, or have been engaged in freelancing, after listening to Dongdong's sharing, it resonates very much!

Hello everyone, I am Men Dongdong who has not been working for five years, and today's sharing is mainly divided into three parts:

1. From not wanting to go to work to not going to work, what have I experienced

5, 0 years do not go to work, summarize 0 ways to efficiently accumulate free money

3. From freelancing to freelancing paid communities, I have seen N kinds of people's life methods

Let's start by introducing myself:

After graduation, he returned to the eighteenth-tier small city, obeyed the arrangement of his parents, and naturally entered the system and became a university teacher.

This is the social standard version - Mendongdong 0.0.

The stable body and the restless soul kept clashes, so he decided to leave. Shanghai, Beijing, Chengdu, in different workplaces, experience a variety of occupations: sex education project operation, social work, career counselor, HR, new media operation... For the first time, freedom was ushered in, and at the same time, it was accompanied by various stumbles in the process of growth.

This is the Exploration Frontier Edition - Mendong Dong 0.0.

After many years in the mixed workplace, ushered in positive feedback and a significant increase in income, I once again accepted the opportunity of fate: to start a business to become a national women's growth community and serve 3000+ women. In the process, I met more people, listened to more stories, and stepped on countless pitfalls that I couldn't avoid.

This is the Life Expansion Version - Mendong Dong 0.0.

Currently, in version 0.0 of the Experience:

The labels that are shown to the outside are: IP broker/freelancer, running a nationwide freelance community; At the same time, the anchors inside and outside the marriage, interviewing 100 women in different marital states, are the new identity given to themselves this year.

But for me, these labels are all temporary. Whether you continue to be a freelancer, or return to the workplace, or start a second business, or even give up everything to study or get married, you don't rule out any possibility. Iterative upgrading of the self-system is the ultimate goal of growth.

Life is nothing but a roller coaster game. Play it！

1. From not wanting to go to work to not going to work, what have I experienced?

1. Naked resignation within the system, stability or freedom? - Not wanting to go to work is a thought

In 2013 years, according to my family's wishes, I became a university teacher at a junior college in a small county town in the 18th tier of Shanxi, teaching mental health courses for college students. From the time I had the idea of quitting to the time I actually left the system, I struggled with it for almost a year.

At that time, there was no word for spiritual resignation, and there was no resignation declaration that the world was so big that I wanted to see it all over the Internet, but there was always a rush in my heart to understand what the outside world was like and what young people in their early twenties were doing.

Once when a new student started school, I gave a welcome speech to everyone at the opening ceremony, and a colleague who was also an aunt said to me, Dongdong, you see how good we are, when you reach your fifties, you can take your grandchildren like an aunt.

I was shocked, as if I had traveled to my fifties at that moment, and I couldn't remember what fun life I had experienced in the middle of the wonderful thirty years. When to get married, when to have a child, when to have a second child, and when to evaluate the title seem to be a well-written script, and I don't want that kind of life to follow.

I want to live an experiential life, not a right one.

Repeatedly weighing the pros and cons could not convince the heart that wanted to leave. Between fun and right, I chose fun. But it's not necessarily a mistake to be fun, but it's a little bit more risky. So during those two years in the system, I felt that freedom was a slogan.

2. Everyone else is in mid-life crisis, I was laid off early in my early twenties, and I don't want to go to work is a slogan

Do you think I'll have a smooth road after quitting naked? Not at all, the real difficulties have just begun. Freedom has become the most painful thing for me.

First, it took half a year to take the postgraduate examination, but I didn't even enter the examination room.

Yuan Duan found a job, but was dismissed less than a year after he arrived in Shanghai.

There are also six months of unemployment without a job at all.

Everyone else is in mid-life crisis, and I was laid off early in my early 20s.

For the first three years after I left the system, I had a very bad career development. I don't know what I love, let alone how to make a career out of my love, although I am not depressed, but insomnia, emotional breakdowns, and wanting to escape are also common things. So in those 3 years of setbacks, I feel like I understood once again what kind of freedom I really wanted. You can ask your own answers, and everyone has interesting answers.

I don't particularly encourage people to talk naked, but I encourage everyone to constantly listen to their hearts in the process of exploration. What kind of life do you want to live? A fun life? A successful life? A happy life? Which keywords are most important to you? In fact, it determines your freelancing posture.

3. Entrepreneurship, gaining strength from failure after failure, not going to work is an action

Many people have been freelancing for a while, or they plan to start a business after they have achieved some success in the workplace, but this failure rate is very high. Because many of us have never learned business thinking.

Looking back on his entrepreneurial experience, he summarized three reasons for failure:

First, the team. Everyone chooses to do things together not based on strengths or complementary resources, but on feelings. Including many teams around me, we have a good relationship, or we think it is good on a certain occasion, but we don't have an in-depth understanding of what stage of life we are in, the focus of life, time allocation, etc. In fact, these will have an impact on team collaboration and work rhythm.

Second, data. Too much focus on mission, vision, values, and too little focus on the actual business.

Third, business. Product + operation is king, and everyone has to concentrate on what matters. In the early days of starting a business, it's just a matter of doing one thing well, and everyone has to concentrate on it. However, most of the teams, including some of the founding projects around me, have multiple parallel businesses and have no way to give them up.

The interesting thing about starting a business is that every time you open your eyes, you face different problems and deal with different things. So it was also in this process that was a bit like going to business school, and I was determined that my future career development attributes were actually more entrepreneurial, even in the workplace, I would enter an entrepreneurial company. I don't want to retire in the workplace, and I don't want to leave my job in the spirit of the workplace.

4. Freelance work: In the new stage of digital tourists, it's really cool not to go to work

Some time ago, I saw a rural survey magazine at Lin An's house, and there is a way of life called migratory bird amphibious, which I think is quite good. It seems like a more ideal way to achieve both want and want greed.

Roughly speaking:

"The two-way flow of life between urban and rural areas switches between the city and the countryside like a migratory bird. For migratory bird villagers, they live in the city and often have families, jobs or careers in the countryside. On the one hand, they enjoy the diversity, richness, innovation, and continuous inspiration of urban life, as well as better education, medical care, culture and art resources. On the other hand, they enjoy the slower-paced life in the countryside, and the abundance of natural and productive resources. They bring what they see and experience from the city to the countryside, and at the same time bring back to the city the fruits of what they have created in the countryside and a balanced state of mind and body. ”

The freedom to combine your time and energy to coordinate a new way of life makes me feel free in the moment. So at the moment freedom is a state.

2. If you don't go to work for 5 years, summarize 0 ways to efficiently accumulate free money

1. Do a good job in health management and financial management, and what you get is freedom of entanglement

Most of the self-media and entrepreneurs around me and freelancers during the transition period, the first bug they encounter is really not that they can't find the skills to make money, but that they can't keep up with their physical strength. You have a lot of things you want to do, but your time and energy management can't keep up, and the root cause is actually that your physical strength can't keep up.

The second is that it is very important to save a sum of money, which can live well without income for a year. The specific amount is determined according to one's standard of living.

2. Join the high-quality circle, get close to the diverse lifestyle and samples, and gain the courage to be free

It is very, very important to look at a sample of freelancers and get relevant information. Just break away from your original circle and build some small circles. Be brave enough to go out there and deep link to some people you're interested in. Participate in more online and offline activities, in a group or a collective, you go to the deep link of a person, than you add a circleWeChatSometimes it's more efficient,

There are two common problems, many people add a lot of various communities in the early stage of transformation, and then read all kinds of books, and then they are overly social, and then they are very tired, and they find that they are so tired, oh, I am so tired, I will go back to work. I mean, you're not transitioning with the right posture.

1) Don't be overwhelmed by the sheer volume of information. You don't need to know that much, this is where there is a conflict with the front, this is the boundary that you want to explore, how long and how much energy do you have to explore this thing? Be sure to pay attention to this.

2) Don't be kidnapped by excessive socialization, many people will find you very tired after socializing, so you have to have enough information for you, occasionally after socializing one or two important people, you have to have your own time and space for independent thinking, so don't be kidnapped and coerced by this thing.

3. Turn skills into products and accept the test of the market, and gain free experience

Since you have chosen freelancing and choose not to roll in the workplace, why not do something really fun with this freedom? Freelancing is the gap year of your workplace, that is, it is possible that you will gap for a lifetime, some people may GAP for half a year, and some people may GAP 5 years. It's a fluid freelance community, and I don't want to say I have to stay that way at the moment.

Creating a new career is something that happens every day in the age of individual creativity.

4. Create personal IP, enhance personal influence, and obtain the energy of freedom

First try to output your own values and methodology, and do a fixed series of content, such as Lin An interviewing 100 people who don't go to work, and continue to output to create your own landmark events.

If you have the energy, you can try to be a community where you can help enough people solve specific problems. If you help enough people, your IP influence will naturally come.

With good planning, as well as time management, energy management, and emotional management, it will help you go further.

So let's not think too far away about personal IP, maybe I can solve this problem for 10 people around me, and you have your influence.

5. Sincerity + altruism + long-termism will always be nirvana on the road to freedom

First, sincerity first sincerely face your own desires, do you want money or fame, or do you want a stable and happy life, first be sincere to yourself, you can be sincere to others.

Second, before altruism, I still satisfy myself, that is, before altruism, I love myself first, and the point of loving myself is that I do what I love, I only associate with the people I like, to make myself truly self-satisfied, and at this time I am altruistic is the real altruism.

Third, long-termism means that I don't believe that everyone can be a pig on the tuyere, but we can be a happy and down-to-earth ordinary person, do a small thing well every day, and it will be great over time.

3. From freelance to freelance paid communities, I have seen N kinds of people's life laws

1. The sample of occupations is rich and diverse, and any unmet market demand can become a profession

Today, I am sharing with you, I believe that at the beginning, it was my little voice 200 years ago that said that in this stable life, I am really not satisfied, and that is my predicament. But today we have 0 people to listen to this sharing, in fact, it is the plight of a group of people, and everyone will be a little unwilling to say, maybe there is something else I can do in this stable state of life.

So one of the fundamental reasons why we are doing the community of the free parlor is that we have experienced this in the past 10 years, 0 years, we want to say that the path you are walking now, we may have walked or are walking in the past, and even walking together in the future.

Many people ask us why we do a freelance community, and I think it is to create a field where people who are "wandering in their professional identity" can also have a home. Many people are constantly looking for their place after leaving the workplace, or after leaving their original family. What is our place in this society?

There are a lot of transformation stories happening in the community every day. Careers are fluid, and freelancing allows everyone to have such an inclusive space to explore various possibilities, so respecting this fluidity and respecting this change itself is the only constant.

2. Life stages are different, respect the law, everyone has their own four seasons of life

The stages of life are really different, respect the law, everyone has their own four seasons of life. is that Douban has a group called Social Countertime, some people get married in their 40s, and some people get married in their 0s, so you say that their devotion to marriage is different, respect the stage they are at at the moment, and respect their own life season when they see what they get, which will make us reduce our anxiety very, very much.

3. Roll or lay? We have the freedom to choose as individuals

Freelancing freelance? In fact, many times there is not so much freedom, you will find that many freelancers work on the road anytime and anywhere, and even he invests more time and energy in personal growth, learning links, he is more tired than the workplace, and even at a certain stage the income is only half of the workplace.

But he has the freedom to choose, that is, I can choose to work 18 hours today, and I can choose not to work tomorrow, we will no longer sell our time to the capitalists, we will choose to be our own boss.

I look forward to today's sharing to witness the first step of more people to explore professional freedom, not necessarily becoming a freelancer, but I hope you wish you early career freedom.